So, you want to step inside the mind of a man and discover what he really wants in a woman. You want to know what he looks for when he is weighing up whether a woman is girlfriend potential or even wife potential. Here are some of the things real men are searching for in real women.
She is supportive.
When a man has a goal, dream, or ambition, he wants to know that the woman in his life backs him. He wants to know that you are willing to listen to his ideas and be positive about them, and he wants to feel like you are supporting of him and believe in his potential.
She is compassionate.
It is true that most men struggle to show their softer emotions, especially in public. That’s why they long for a woman who grants them permission to be vulnerable by showing compassion and understanding. They need to know that when they feel sad or low, their woman will not only accept these emotions but provide an open and loving environment in which to express them.
She is accepting.
Men want to feel that they can be their true selves, even if that doesn’t always align with the image of the perfect man.
Society places a lot of expectations on a man – to be manly, driven, loud, competitive… but men are not always like that. So they want to find a woman without preconceived notions of what a man should be. They want to feel accepted for who they are, not for who someone else wants them to be. And this includes the flaws that every man (and woman for that matter) has.
She is independent.
It’s very common for a woman to want to stay close to their man and for a man to need a bit of space. When a woman tries to keep close at all times, a man might feel suffocated and see the woman as clingy or needy. That’s why a man really appreciates a woman who has her own life so that he has some time to himself.
She is appreciative.
Men want to feel useful to women. They want to feel needed. It’s part of their ancestral heritage as tribal hunters who provided for their families. They want a woman who will show her appreciation for the things they do so that they, indeed, feel useful and needed. A little thank you or a metaphorical pat on the back to affirm a man for doing something good goes a long way.